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What’s on the other side of fear?

We have all been there. That moment when you feel those butterflies in your stomach giving you that nausea feeling, when your heart starts beating so fast you are afraid it might explode, when your mouth suddenly goes dry like you would be in the middle of the Sahara desert or when the palms of your hands get so sweaty that looks like you just washed them. And then the voice that tells you « you will screw this up». You know the voice I am talking about, the one that keeps reminding you that « you are not good enough, why you are even trying to do this?». We all feel fear at some point in our lives. Perhaps it’s a presentation you need to give, a meeting you are going to lead or a job interview you are about to go to. The problem is when you let that voice win and you back down. Yes, there is an immediate sense of relief, the sick feeling on your stomach goes away. You can breathe normally again. And the voice tells you that you have avoided what could have been a disaster. Phew ! In r...

What Are You Afraid Of?

How many times did you hesitate doing something you really wanted for fear of failing or fear of making a fool out of yourself in front of others ? How many times did you not raise your hand and kept your mouth shut when there was something you really wanted to say ? How many times did you tell yourself that you are not good enough to take that chance ? Well, you are not alone. None of us is immune to fear – of failing, of rejection, of criticism, of disapproval… In fact, whenever we enter unfamiliar territory or we put ourselves out there into the world, we experience fear. I know fear well. What you need to know about me is that I have lived my life with many fears. In fact, the seeds of fear have been planted in me in my childhood by my well intentioned and over protective mother. “That is dangerous, you are going to hurt yourself, don’t do it.” She still tells me to this day. So I have been constantly second guessing my decisions, doubting my skills, and playing ...